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Deirdre's avatar

At worst you might have missed a chance but not all of them. Self Sabotage is normal, we all do it to a lesser or greater degree (at least I hope so!). I’m a great believer in writing stuff down and working backwards from that. I might never look at it again but it helps me to make the nebulous a little bit more defined in my head. In fairness it’s something I have to redo every once in a while because what I’m looking to do isn’t true to me and I repeatedly fall off the wagon:) Don’t forget that even your endeavours in procrastination produce worthwhile results! Yay for books and new hobbies- wonderful ways to cope with stress!

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Anna Maria Boland's avatar

It's through writing how I discovered where it comes from. As for new hobbies, they are not a great way to deal with stress, not for me anyway. They make me think that I should be doing something else and not this, which of course causes guilty feelings and stress. So this way of procrastinating is not great. I could better sit at my desk and stare through the window, at least I would be where I'm supposed to be. ;-)

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Shaz's avatar

It's never too late! Perhaps you need this slow doing nothing time before a new way becomes clear...

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Anna Maria Boland's avatar

I’ve been slow for the last 10 years or so.😂 I think I actually need some serious action to get over the fear.

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Shaz's avatar

Yes, I feel that need for action, too, though energy not currently forthcoming...

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Anna Maria Boland's avatar

I hope that the energy will show up for you soon, even if only for some small steps.

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